I firmly believe that the strongest factor for wanting a divorce is entitlement. You’ve done your part, you’ve spoken your spouse’s Love Language, you’ve been patient, but your spouse still won’t change. They won’t do what you want and you deserve better. In the end, you conclude that you married the wrong person and it’s […]
The Five Love Languages Condition Us for Self-Serving Kickback Love
I’ve read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman enough times that I pretty have the entire book memorized. For a time, this book seemed like the savior for my relationship with my wife. The idea behind it so simple: I want a better marriage. a.k.a. I want my wife to do specific things for […]
The Real Reason Marriage & the American Family have Dissolved
When you talk about the cultural war on marriage, Christians and the media typically think you must be talking about gay marriage. The sobering truth is the Christians already lost the “war” to a cultural definition of marriage well before gay marriage hit the spotlight. In fact, a strong argument could be made that if […]
Bringing 1 Corinthians 11 Head Coverings Back for 2014
I recently preached on a confusing passage of Scripture that most of us skip over in our devotional time: 1 Corinthians 11:1-16 on women wearing head coverings and men not having long hair. It was not a sermon I thought I’d be writing a follow-up blog to, nor was it a passage I would have […]
God’s Recipe for Sex
God designed sex to be a one-flesh relationship; He tells us this in Genesis 2:24 and 1 Corinthians 6:15-16. But what does one-flesh mean, and how does this differ from the type of sex the world offers us? I preached on this subject this past Sunday. God’s one-flesh recipe for sex is that all of […]
The Idol of Marriage
Much of what fuels a single person to long for marriage is the lack of feeling of wholeness they have, and the idea that marriage will bring them that wholeness. In this sense, marriage becomes an idol, and we know idols never fulfill their promises. Many married people have bought into this trap as well, […]