I recently wrote about the need to mow your marriage. The grass is greener on the other side because you don’t have to mow it. Marriages are high maintenance. Lust, affairs, crushes, flirtations, and fantasies are not. So here’s a question: would you rather live in your house or in an all-inclusive resort?
Mow Your Marriage
The grass is greener where you water it. The grass looks greener on the other side because you don’t have to mow it. In my last two posts about Kate Upton and about the key to sexual purity, I mentioned how the appeal of lust is that our spouses become too human, whereas lust operates […]
Methods of Retraining Your Sexually-Damaged Heart & Mind Part 2
I want to focus some blog posts on the ways I have reconditioned my mind to leave the world of fantasy that our sex-saturated world creates and to train it to embrace reality instead. (Check out Method #1, “It’s Not Real”) Method #2, “It’s Not Important”… When you get married, everyone else around you doesn’t […]
Methods of Retraining Your Sexually-Damaged Heart and Mind
I want to focus some blog posts on the ways I have reconditioned my mind to leave the world of fantasy that our sex-saturated world creates and to train it to embrace reality instead. This is a long and comprehensive process so each of these posts will hit on one tool in the toolbox. (Read […]
How 5 Love Languages & His Needs Her Needs books can cause affairs
The books The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley have been very helpful to a lot of couples. I’ve read them both, they’ve both been very helpful to my wife’s and my marriage, and I recommend them both as helpful tools for you. There is a subtle […]
Should I Talk to My Spouse About My Porn Problem?
There is no greater accountability than knowing your spouse is watching you. It is unlikely that you would look at pornography or flirt with your co-worker if your spouse was standing there next to you. This is what I love about Spector Pro’s screenshot system. I know my wife has access to minute-by-minute screenshots of […]