(Ladies, I originally wrote this for men and left the language that way in the blog post. Please swap out “wife” for “husband”, “her” for “him” etc. as these principles should apply to you as well) Your love for your wife cannot be rooted in her love for you. You cannot wait to do nice […]
Marriage Entitlement’s Kryptonite: Appreciation
I recently blogged on how entitlement is the biggest enemy in our marriages. What follows is what I call the Kryptonite to our entitlement–that is, the one thing entitlement can’t be in coexistence with: appreciation. In my ten years of marriage, I’ve had nine years of living entitled, and one year (the most recent) of […]
Lessons in Lust: When Even Burger King Looks Appetizing
(Ladies, I originally wrote this to guys. Please exchange “woman” for “man”, “wife” for “husband”, as is appropriate) Do you ever go grocery shopping when you’re hungry? What typically happens is you get to the checkout aisle wondering how so many bags of chips, packs of Oreos, and boxes of donuts ended up in your […]
Trying to Grasp the Unending Mercy of God
Lord, help me to remember who you are and who I am. Help me to remember that I am dust. And that I am a broken sinner who deserves hell. And that you are the Alpha to the Omega, the Ancient of Days. You have always been here and you always will be. You are […]
The Biggest Enemy of Your Marriage: Entitlement
Our worst enemy in our marriages is not pornography. It’s not lust. It’s not temptation. It’s not compatibility. It is entitlement. There are a lot of books and seminars out there on how to improve your marriage (some of them very good). But if one of them actually worked in a once-and-for-all fashion, couldn’t books […]
3 Reasons I Didn’t Want to Be Gay by Jim Decke
Written by Jim Decke: “Why have you given up on becoming straight?” I was recently asked this question by a new friend. He had seen me give my testimony at church about being a gay Christian and had read my story on Facebook. I told him that being straight didn’t matter to me anymore; that […]