I want to focus some blog posts on the ways I have reconditioned my mind to leave the world of fantasy that our sex-saturated world creates and to train it to embrace reality instead. (Check out Method #1, “It’s Not Real”) Method #2, “It’s Not Important”… When you get married, everyone else around you doesn’t […]
Methods of Retraining Your Sexually-Damaged Heart and Mind
I want to focus some blog posts on the ways I have reconditioned my mind to leave the world of fantasy that our sex-saturated world creates and to train it to embrace reality instead. This is a long and comprehensive process so each of these posts will hit on one tool in the toolbox. (Read […]
The Plague of American Christians: Caring What Other People Think
For most of my life, my insecurities have caused me to care too much about what other people think of me. When we first started our church, I decided we would not count how many people were in attendance each week. Didn’t want to focus on the wrong things, you know? Didn’t want to make […]
How 5 Love Languages & His Needs Her Needs books can cause affairs
The books The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley have been very helpful to a lot of couples. I’ve read them both, they’ve both been very helpful to my wife’s and my marriage, and I recommend them both as helpful tools for you. There is a subtle […]
Should I Talk to My Spouse About My Porn Problem?
There is no greater accountability than knowing your spouse is watching you. It is unlikely that you would look at pornography or flirt with your co-worker if your spouse was standing there next to you. This is what I love about Spector Pro’s screenshot system. I know my wife has access to minute-by-minute screenshots of […]
My Story and Testimony with Pornography
With all of the posts I’ve been doing on pornography, I thought it’d be important for me to share my story with pornography so readers can relate to where I’m coming from. I share this so you know you’re not alone, to know Jesus forgives all who ask, and to know you can be free. […]