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Research Shows: Your Spouse is not “The One” for You
I firmly believe that the strongest factor for wanting a divorce is entitlement. You’ve done your part, you’ve spoken your spouse’s Love Language, you’ve been patient, but your spouse still won’t change. They won’t do what you want and you deserve better. In the end, you conclude that you married the wrong person and it’s […]
2 Unexpected Ways Believing in Hell has Reinvigorated my Faith
I grew up in a church tradition that really emphasized hell as a motivation for accepting Christ’s forgiveness of our sins. In fact, my own salvation decision as a young child was highly motivated by this. I no longer see overemphasis on hell (often an exclusive emphasis) as biblical or effective in bringing true heart […]
The Five Love Languages Condition Us for Self-Serving Kickback Love
I’ve read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman enough times that I pretty have the entire book memorized. For a time, this book seemed like the savior for my relationship with my wife. The idea behind it so simple: I want a better marriage. a.k.a. I want my wife to do specific things for […]
The Real Reason Marriage & the American Family have Dissolved
When you talk about the cultural war on marriage, Christians and the media typically think you must be talking about gay marriage. The sobering truth is the Christians already lost the “war” to a cultural definition of marriage well before gay marriage hit the spotlight. In fact, a strong argument could be made that if […]
God Does Not Look Good in a Bikini
God does not look good in a bikini. God does not have the perfect body. God is not sexy. God is not cool. God is not a movie star. God is not an athlete. God is not a model. God is not a celebrity. God doesn’t write paychecks. God is not a retirement plan. God […]