Please use the following link to read my recent article for Covenant Eyes’ blog, How to Love Your Spouse When They Don’t Love You Back. Please share that Covenant Eyes link in your social networks, not the current noahfilipiak.com one you are currently on. This Covenant Eyes article shares some similar content with my upcoming […]
Jesus’s Guide to Forgiving Your Spouse
(This is an excerpt from the book I’m working on called “Beyond the Battle,” a book for men about sexual purity and our identity in Christ. This excerpt can easily be applied to both men and women. Also, it is not referencing any individual offense within my marriage, but is referring to my tendency as […]
2 Unexpected Ways Believing in Hell has Reinvigorated my Faith
I grew up in a church tradition that really emphasized hell as a motivation for accepting Christ’s forgiveness of our sins. In fact, my own salvation decision as a young child was highly motivated by this. I no longer see overemphasis on hell (often an exclusive emphasis) as biblical or effective in bringing true heart […]
Marriage Entitlement’s Kryptonite: Appreciation
I recently blogged on how entitlement is the biggest enemy in our marriages. What follows is what I call the Kryptonite to our entitlement–that is, the one thing entitlement can’t be in coexistence with: appreciation. In my ten years of marriage, I’ve had nine years of living entitled, and one year (the most recent) of […]
The Biggest Enemy of Your Marriage: Entitlement
Our worst enemy in our marriages is not pornography. It’s not lust. It’s not temptation. It’s not compatibility. It is entitlement. There are a lot of books and seminars out there on how to improve your marriage (some of them very good). But if one of them actually worked in a once-and-for-all fashion, couldn’t books […]
Should I Talk to My Spouse About My Porn Problem?
There is no greater accountability than knowing your spouse is watching you. It is unlikely that you would look at pornography or flirt with your co-worker if your spouse was standing there next to you. This is what I love about Spector Pro’s screenshot system. I know my wife has access to minute-by-minute screenshots of […]